Updated: Nov 11, 2019
It's nearly holiday time and while many find it to be the most wonderful time of year, there are many who struggle to simply get through the season in one piece. The holiday season is considered Thanksgiving through the New Year and for me, my birthday falls in that time frame too - Nov. 29th. What does the holiday season mean for you?
Normally, I LOVE the holidays. People tend to be a little kinder and festive, and let us not forget the twinkle lights. I LOVE going to the different holiday events, especially if twinkle lights are involved. Then of course there are the HALLMARK MOVIES I LOVE in which a conflict happens and is happily resolved within two hours.
This year will be different as it will be hard. Last December my mom died. In September my fur baby of 15-years Mika died. And the homestead that I grew up in, LOVE, and continue to visit is on the market. Top it off that the last two birthdays were spent in the hospital with my mom as she fought back from pneumonia. All of which is part of life...even though it's a hard part of life. There is a part of me that just wants to pretend it isn't the holidays at all, and there is a part of me that wants to make it special in spite of the grief.
I've chosen a life that focuses on LOVE, kindness, compassion, peace, and appreciation. And, I truly mean I CHOSE IT. It's a daily practice and far easier to do on the good days than the hard ones, but I still choose to live this way. I will choose to move through this holiday season that way as well, even though this year comes with a heavy serving of grief.
So please know, wherever you find yourself this holiday, I see you, I hear you, and you matter to me. I am here to offer a hug to celebrate with you and a hug to hold you close if you are in sorrow.
If you are finding the holiday season a difficult time of year, I encourage you to move through it by:
Honoring your feelings as they are YOURS. Feel what you need to feel and then take a small step forward on feeling a little better. Some days that may be just getting dressed and other days it might include allowing yourself to truly feel good.
Honoring those no longer with you. Whether this is the first holiday season after a death, divorce or any reason you are dealing with a loss, honor them...or honor you. Create an altar, light a candle, or create a tradition that will honor what was while you move forth into what is.
Volunteering to help. When you are of service to others you are feeding and nurturing yourself just as much as you are being of service to them.
Creating something new to associate with the holiday season. Do something different than in years past and create a new tradition.
Mostly, my wish for you is to be gentle with yourself and others every day of the year and not just at the holiday time. Each of us in different ways are experiencing reasons to celebrate and reasons of sorrow.
Until next time, allow yourself as much happiness this holiday season as you can.
Big hugs and much LOVE,
Please know this blog isn't a 'feel sorry for Carol's hard year' as there has been much LOVE in the year as well. I want you to know that while life can be hard, it is also beautiful and often happening at the very same time.
I choose to be guided by LOVE every day.
Words to LOVE by:
"It always seems impossible until it is done." - Nelson Mandela
"You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step." - Martin Luther King
"Don't be afraid of your fears. They're not there to scare you. They're there to let you know that something is worth it." -C. Joybell